All of us have negative thoughts then and now. Though there are lot of workshops, seminars, preaches about positive thinking and fostering positive thoughts, one cannot easily stop their automatic negative thoughts.
Why there is ANT? Automatic Negative Thoughts?
- Individuals are born with death instinct which is nothing but anticipating possible ways of getting killed or killing
- It is easier to escape than to stand against any threat. Escape mechanism evolved with Fight or Flight response for any danger an organism faces.
Without much details on how negative thoughts has evolved, let’s get into the smartest way of dealing with it.
Step 1: Be aware of your thoughts. Sometimes without any conscious awareness negative thoughts just grow like a tree with strong root system where it would be tough to cut the negative tree with the axe of positive thoughts. So it is very crucial step to identify your negative thoughts as soon as it pops in your thought system.
Step 2: Most prominent feature of negative thought is “Why this happen only to me?” Do not let the thought grow, because every individual have their own problem. Remember that, if you are facing problems, believe that it is given to you since you are capable of solving it. Have faith in your self 🙂
Step 3: Negative thoughts are like yeast, it just doubles in minutes and doubles the flour in hours. Likewise, single negative thought can shutter the thinking and intelligence you possess. So do not let the ANT doubles instead focus on the root cause of your Negative Thoughts. Write down the thoughts and have a track of it for a week. At the end of the week, analyse it and give rational explanation for each of it.
Step 4: Once you started the rational explanation for the ANT, be aware of the emotional part. Make sure there is no explanation based on emotional decisions.
Step 5: Rate your negative thoughts once in a week after giving the rational explanation. In a scale of 0-10 . Rate 0 if you can control the ANT for that week and 10 if you cannot control the ANT.
Step 6: Last but important, do not personalise if you are not able to rate yourself 0 after a week. It takes time to heal. So be patient, most of us in the same boat as you are in.
Hope, you find it useful for reducing your Automatic Negative Thoughts. If you want to talk more about it mail me @ firstname.lastname@example.org